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As a mother, you want the best for your child —
...a safe, nurturing environment where they feel loved, supported, and equipped to face the world with confidence, right?!
Despite your love and dedication, do you find yourself stuck in the same challenging patterns with your child? Sometimes feeling...
- Frustrated with their behaviour and unsure how to handle them? They just don't listen anymore, so it always ends up with shouting and tears!
- Disconnected from them as if you're living with a total stranger? Since the teenage hormones kicked in you can't seem to get through to them.
- Unsure how to respond to their needs in a way that promotes their health and wellbeing? They never seem happy go lucky anymore.
The answer may lie in understanding your Parenting Blueprint.
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Who Am I?
Hi, I'm Susanne, a Holistic Therapist, Family Connection Coach & Author, who's passionate about helping mums tap into their strength.
As a solo Mum I know the challenges that come with being responsible for another human. Some days feel like an endless battle of negotiating, begging your child to do the simplest tasks like tidy their toys away or tackle their maths homework, which inevitably ends with you yelling or a full blown tantrum. Neither of which is fun!
I've been there! The smallest things would set me off...Empty milk cartons, constant questions "why", bedtimes sat in their room waiting 'til they fell asleep, then doing my best ninja attempt to leave the room without them waking up. I’d snap & shout before I could stop myself...
And the look of confusion or fear on their faces overwhelmed me with guilt me every time.
Every morning I'd wake up thinking I'd do better and stay calm today...but every day was the same! This wasn't the parent I wanted to be! These were the children I never thought I'd be able to have, and here I was frustrated, irritated and overwhelmed.
Something had to change!
Deep breathing & parenting tips weren't going to cut it. I needed to know why I felt so reactive in the first place. And that's where my Parenting Blueprints and my EMPOWERED Parenting Method were born.
A unique concept that's so much more than parenting scripts, gentle parenting or being perfect. This is about understanding why you're wired the way YOU are, YOUR parenting style & how you can bring harmony into YOUR home.
What are the Parenting Blueprints?
Over the last 20+ years, I’ve worked with countless mothers and studied child psychology, attachment, and parenting behaviours. And one thing kept showing up again and again—our own childhood experiences shape how we show up as parents, often in ways we don’t even realise.
When women described the challenges of daily parenting—what pushed their buttons, how they coped—I noticed clear patterns. Most fell into one of four emotional responses:
🌿 Safe connection
🛡️ Guarded demands
😟 Fearful tolerance
❄️ Detached indifference
That’s how the Parenting Blueprints were born.
These patterns aren’t flaws. They’re deeply human responses, shaped by how we were parented and what we learned to expect in relationships. They quietly guide how we connect, how we protect ourselves, and how we respond to stress.
🌱 Why Your Parenting Blueprint Matters
Your Parenting Blueprint shapes more than just how you respond in the moment — it’s part of what builds your child’s emotional world.
When you understand your own attachment style, you start to see what’s really happening underneath those everyday parenting moments. It’s one of the most powerful things you can do to create a calmer, more connected relationship with your child.
💬 You respond instead of react
When you know your blueprint, you can spot the patterns — in your child’s behaviour and in your own. You become more tuned in, more grounded. Instead of reacting from stress or old habits, you can respond in ways that make your child feel safe and truly seen.
💗 You build deeper trust
Understanding your blueprint helps you parent with more intention and self-awareness. It softens the edges. You begin to offer the kind of consistency and emotional safety your child can rely on — and that deepens your connection in ways that last a lifetime.
You don’t need to be a perfect parent. But when you’re aware of your own patterns, you create space for healing, for both of you.
Parenting is full of second-guessing. But when you understand your blueprint, it all starts to make more sense. You can meet your child’s needs without losing yourself in the process. You respond with more clarity, more calm, and more trust in yourself.
💪 It gives you more confidence, too
When your child feels safe with you — really safe — they grow confident in the world. They know they’re loved. They know you see them. That kind of secure base helps them handle stress, build empathy, and form healthy relationships as they grow.
🧠 It supports your child’s emotional resilience
Without realising it, many of us repeat responses we learned in childhood. If your blueprint leans toward fearful tolerance, you might find yourself overreacting when your child needs calm. If you lean toward guarded demands, you might pull away when they need closeness. Recognising these patterns means you’re no longer stuck in them — you get to choose a new way.
🔁 It helps you shift old patterns
Understanding your Parenting Blueprint isn’t just about awareness — it’s about breaking old cycles and building something stronger, for both you and your child.
So What Are the 4 Parenting Blueprints?
Attachment styles typically fall into four categories, each with its own strengths and challenges:
Safe Connection: You are generally comfortable with intimacy and independence. You’re responsive and nurturing to your child’s needs, and your child feels safe and secure with you.
Fearful Tolerance: You may worry about your child’s well-being and feel the need to control or over-involve yourself in their life. This often comes from a fear of rejection or abandonment.
Guarded Demands: You may find it difficult to express your emotions or be overly independent. This can sometimes result in being emotionally distant, even when your child needs closeness and reassurance.
Detached Indifference: You may feel inconsistent in your approach to parenting, swinging between being overly nurturing and emotionally unavailable. This often stems from unresolved trauma or early life experiences.
How Understanding Your Attachment Style Will Transform Your Parenting
🤍 You respond with more love, less overwhelm
Instead of snapping when things feel too much, you pause. You notice what’s really going on — in you, and in them. You comfort instead of control. You stay connected, even in the chaos.
🪞 You catch yourself in the moment
You notice the old stories playing out — the guilt, the worry, the urgency to get it “right.” And instead of spiralling, you breathe. You get curious. You become a more thoughtful, present version of yourself.
🔓 You stop repeating what hurt you
You recognise the patterns you inherited — the shutdowns, the yelling, the emotional distance — and you start to do it differently. With more warmth. More softness. More choice.
🏡 You create calm in your home
Your child starts to feel it too. There’s more laughter. More eye contact. Fewer power struggles. They start to feel safe — not just physically, but emotionally. And that safety helps them thrive.
🌿 You rewrite the legacy
The patterns you break now — even in small, imperfect ways — ripple through generations. You’re creating a family culture rooted in love, not fear. Connection, not control.
It’s Not Too Late to Make a Change
No matter where you’re starting from, it’s possible to shift things — gently, intentionally, and with deep impact.
You already have the wisdom of lived experience. Understanding your Parenting Blueprint helps you use that insight to create more connection, calm, and trust in your relationship with your child.
When you understand your blueprint, you can begin parenting with more confidence, compassion, and clarity. You’ll start to see your child — and yourself — through a new lens. And from there, things begin to change.
Small shifts, big impact.
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Your relationship with your child shapes how they see themselves and the world. The good news? You don’t need to be perfect — just present, aware, and willing to grow.
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